The main objective of writing Quit that Unrequited Love! (Part 1/2) - Silent Hint 摆脱单恋! (1/2部) - 沉默的暗示 is to help shy buddies out there that are suffocating from their long buried feelings. To my realization, these shy friends are actually very sensitive and observant in nature that they can easily catch silent hints easily, but it may not be the same case for their counterparts who are not as sensitive and observant to be able to comprehend the hints. For our shy friends that had read Q.T.U.L part 1 and were successful in confessing, I am very for all of you and would like to congratulate you for your success, as you deserve it. All thanks to your feelings and courage! May you both always be loving and happy with each other.
Yet, for those that had already confessed but yet to receive or receive no response at all, no fret, this Q.T.U.L part 2 is written specially for you. Alright, if silent hint does not work, then, let's be obvious!
Why there's no response at all after silent hint is given:
1) insensitive
Let's be pretty honest here, not all people are as sensitive as us. And that's one quality that we should be proud of (but at the same time, be annoyed about). Fine then, so let us express in a way that can at least reach the minimum sensitivity level of his/her.
2) unobservant
Again, this is not our fault. But we are forgiving enough to forgive him/her that he/she is not as observant as us. Okay, let's be kind enough as well to show him/her in a way that will be more observable for him/her.
3) uncomprehending
Yes, he/she may not understand our hint at all! Alright, perhaps we should make sure him/her knows what your hint is all about. Let me be very frank, silent hint has its one major advantage - it lets you express without feeling embarrassed. But at the same time, it is also its major disadvantage, because your recipient may have interpreted your hint wrongly without you realizing about it! Instead of expressing your feelings, you create misunderstanding that may wreck the initial relationship.
4) rejection
It is cruel, but we still have to face the reality that he/she does not share the same feeling. However, as mentioned earlier, there maybe some misunderstanding in between, thus do not conclude in advance.
The above are among a few possible reasons of no response to our hint. We may not know exactly which reasons, but what really matters to us is an answer. So, let's be straightforward in getting our "yes" or "no". The decision is in your hands whether you still want to continue on it after getting your answer. Well, if the person is worthy, why not?
Hereby, I will share with you some "unconventional obvious hints" (I mean, obvious, really). Say and do only when you really mean it.
1) Utilize your vocal
Love to sing? Then sing your love out loud. Pick a few "obvious" songs, better with lyrics that can express your feelings and modify them if necessary. Go to jukebox, karaoke, studio, stadium, bedroom, bathroom or wherever you are comfortable with. Then, practice, practice and practice. Impress him/her with enough preparation. One gentle reminder, do make sure that your preparation does not cause any disturbance to others, especially your neighbours. I have a neighbour who enjoys singing during the weekend. It is a lovely love song that can be clearly heard and it echoed in my bathroom. I enjoyed the song most, especially the part where he sang the high pitch. *v*
Some personal favourites:
English
Michael Learns to Rock - Take Me to Your Heart
A Thousand Miles - Vanessa Carlton
Mandarin
爱你 - Kimberly Chen
回音 - 周定緯
Cantonese
世上只有 - Joey Yung (Cantonese Version)
A Little Love - Fiona Fung (English Version of 世上只有 )
Korean
Be my love - Clazziquai Feat Lee Seung Yul
Hey U - Venny
Spanish
Ai Se Eu Te Pego - Michel Teló
2) Show off your cooking skills, foodie!
Any foodies here who love to eat and cook? Well, it's time for you to show off your skills! Homemade food is not a bad idea, but let's have fun with baking. How about fortune cookies? Those tiny cookies packaged in pretty packages contain taste and fun. There will be a small sheet of paper "indicating" your luck for the whole year. It's more for fun purpose rather than divination. I used to have lots of fun eating and cracking the cookie to see what is written inside.
You can prepare a small (I mean, small) sheet of paper and print whatever you want to express on it, limit it to 10-15 words. Please do not stuff a 150 words love letter inside. I believe you do not want the cookie to "explode" or choke the him/her, yes?
Oh, a gentle reminder. In case that person does not know what a fortune cookie is, do note him/her that there is a sheet of paper in the cookie so that he/she will not swallow it and ended up your words in the .....*cough* loo.
3) Old school style - <3 shape
I could not find the basis for humans, throughout the history of mankind, prefer to represent love in heart shape. I have yet to find the answer. Anyway, for heart shape fans, you can find lots of heart shaped products in the market. Plus a bit of sincerity by making it yourself, it will definitely add few marks.
Heart shaped ham. No matter how it taste like, it sure looks delicious and adorable. A good option for foodie.
4) Keep your words
Yes, whatever we have promised, we have to keep our words. Here, it literally means "keeping" your words in a recorder. No, it is not intended to be used as court evidence, it is actually pretty useful for those that are too shy to voice it out. Record what you want to say, address him/her through the usual way you address the person. (Well, just in case it falls into the wrong hand. You know, love confession directed to the wrong person, it's disastrous, seriously) Share the record and listen together. It's exciting and scary at the same time. You have the adrenaline rush, your heart beats will be out of order, you will face difficulty in breathing, you will sweat and drench your clothes, and you can even see stars and moon revolving around you. No, do not faint yet. The most exciting part is yet to come - his/her expression and answer. You can faint, jump into the pool or enjoy your champagne later, after hearing the answer.
That's love is all about, well, just a part of it. It all starts with heart beat goes out of order, blacking out, and gasping for air. Hey, you will never experience all these if you have not been poisoned by a drug called L.O.V.E. So, enjoy the excitement. "Your Love is My Drug" does have its basis, no?
Your Love is My Drug - Ke$ha
4) You're Mine
What is more exciting than claiming "ownership"? For those who loves
to mark their "territory", a.k.a possessive, you can express your
"possessive love" in a "gentle" way. The majority view people with
possessive character from a negative viewpoint. If we change our facet,
possessiveness can actually be interpreted as something or someone that
he/she cares a lot. Come to think about it, we would not be possessive
about something or someone that is not important to us, no? So,
possessive shy buddies, be proud of your possessive character. Let that
person knows about it and feels proud about it too! You don't need to
write your name on him/her, here's a "gentle" way to mark your
"ownership:ties or scarfs.
I believe you know
what to do then, and be sure to give it out when the weather chills.
Now, that's one excuse to walk in the snow.
5) I'm Yours
Let's shift our perspective, how about being "owned"? No, you do not need to chain yourself up and hand the chain to the person. Well, if you have such hobby or enjoy such presentation, nobody can stop you. But, I believe you would not want to scare that person away, would you? And this section, I will leave it to your imagination and creativity to express yourself. One easy yet expressive method - sing Jason Mraz "I'm Yours".
I'm Yours - Jason Mraz
The above are for your reference, you can come up with your own personal creative methods to help you succeed. One important thing I need to note here, PLEASE REMEMBER to obtain an answer after expressing your feelings. That's the objective of us braving up ourselves to do all these, no? So, do not forget. If the answer is a 'yes', congrats. If 'no', also congrats to you, as you are courageous, being truthful to him/her and yourself. And most importantly, you have no regrets!
I do not regret what I did, I only regret what I did not do when I have the chance. -- Anon.
If you still cannot let go, then follow what your heart and go for it if he.she is worthy; or wish him/her all the happiness if the person is already unavailable.
I may not be obvious in telling you my true feelings.
At first, I thought it was because of my ego,
but now I realize that it's because I'm afraid of losing you.
However,
I know if I don't let you know and keep this forever in my heart,
I'll definitely lose you.
I won't regret that I have tried my best in telling you,
I'll only regret that I didn't tell you and let you slip away from my life.
P/S: This article acts as reference only. No guarantees are made for
successful confession and is not liable for any failure of confession or
any other litigation.
Give your best shot,
S.L.α
S.L.α's Personal Comment:
I have limited time nowadays to properly write out an article. I have longed to finish this Q.T.U.L part 2 as there were some incidents happened some time ago which made me realized the difference in expressing and understanding between shy people and their counterparts. I have urged myself to finish this article. Finally, I am able to finish my handwritten draft on my way to and fro outstation after a couple of hours. Subtracting the side effects of writing on a vehicle, I feel great of finishing this!
The main objective of writing Q.T.U.L part 2 is to help our shy buddies out there to express their true feelings, somehow some did not get any response after part 1. This saddens me as they deserve the response that they longed for, basing on all the effort, feeling and sincerity that they had put in. Therefore, I feel an urge to write out part 2. To me, it is a sad incident that a relationship does not work due to some misunderstanding.
As a shy person without the sensitivity and observation a shy person should have, hereby best wishes to all shy buddies in your second shot, and most importantly, give your best shot!
