To you over thousand miles 至千里之外的你

Just few months ago I got to know through a family friend that a friend of mine that had been submarining for quite some time had went overseas to open a new page for his life. Not quite sure whether his act will be able to solve his struggles and problems. Well, since that he had literally “evaporated” from the social media platforms, I just want to express my gratitude and wishes here to him over there.

Seasoned chatterbox and walking pheromone (this is his own personal perspective, XD), not a friend I knew for years, but I kind of miss his unpretentious, straightforwardness and his perspectives on all angles of life - anything under the Sun. Yep, any topics, you have all the guts eh, mate?

Stay safe and be good, keep your claws to yourself and don’t scare the cute rabbits away, okay? Be kind to them and be kind to yourself too. 

Hope you find your happiness over there, I believe one of my questions directed to you will help you on this. 

Take care. Till we meet again. 

知道你不会中文，所以我才可以在这挑衅，抒发下不满你不告而别的情绪 XD

说都不说一声，还在社交网蒸发了，真不够朋友

该让我知道何事，我可以帮你想办法呀

没法让你六个月内checkmate, 抱歉咯。你找错对手了XP

规则都明示你了，你却不信要走捷径，在我这儿行不通哦

没有了你念念叨叨的自恋自语，好眼光，和一针见血毫不留情的评语，看法和损人的口才

有些太安静呢

无论如何，谢谢你

在那相隔千山万水的你，保重

有缘再相逢的话，会让你跌破眼镜，作为你口才的回报，哈哈

我亦师亦友，不做作，自信爆满的行走放电机朋友，文

谁怕人生到处相逢难

知己一程何必多善感

我上京 试诗才

你归去 返庐山

来日放榜簪花在春衫

一朝等闲驰马到江南

保重，

S.L α

你找对了人吗？Have you found the right person?

从一个女人看她背后的男人，很准！ 

一般从女人的身上能看到男人的一切，虽不是绝对的，但大致上是这样的。

01、穿着光鲜，神情忧郁的女人，她的男人一般是事业成功，外带小秘者。

02、一个泼妇型的女人，她背后的男人，也许就那种不善言语的老实人。

03、一个女强人的老公，必定是个普通人。

04、一个为钱奔命的女人，她的老公一定是无能者。

05、一个精神出轨的女人，她老公肯定在思想上和她不是同一个水平。

06、光采照人的女人背后有一个爱自已的男人，有足够经济后盾，不用为生计发愁，天天健身，日日美容，日子过的有滋有味。

07、沧桑的女人，日夜为生计奔波，为了儿女的学费，为了老人的养老费而省吃俭用，更舍不得为自已买几件象样的衣裳，日子过的清苦和辛酸。

世上的每个女人都是纯情少女，一切的改变，都是从男人身上开始。一个优秀的男人能使自已的女人光采照人，一个无能的男人，让自已的女人满面沧桑。

一个男人能造就一个女人，同时也能毁灭一个女人。

其实，

男人不需要很多的财富，但必须有养家的能力；

男人不需要能力很强，但必须有保护妻儿的本事；

男人不需要很坚强，但必须要让自已的女人有安全感；

男人就该像个男人，负男人该负的责任，让自已的女人光彩照人！

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很久之前看了上面这篇文章，当时还没什么感觉。现在回顾，很震撼这文章有些逻辑性。至于准不准嘛，因人而异了。不过呀，现在男女平等的时代，双方也有相对的责任让家庭幸福，也不能全怪单方面的问题，也许个人的性格也是原因之一。这话说到你们的心坎上了吧，兄弟们？

感触泛滥，在此发文。

身边朋友和亲戚找错良人，结果一个选择离开，一个因某些原因选择留下。两人性情都变了。原本是很阳光的人，现在很少能看到他们的笑容了。是谁夺走了他们的笑容, 伤害他们的人，还是他们本身？只有他们自己知道了。我想，是后者成分多一些。毕竟，是自己的选择。

我没能做些什么，也无能为力。无论如何，祝他们幸福。

希望看到此文的亲们，谨慎顾好自己的心和身。现在是颜控时代，别被精美的包装和物质上的诱惑让自己陷入沼泽。我得自招，我也是颜控粉之一。让我自豪的是，我还能做到帅哥现前，美人在怀还能泰山不倒。请原谅我的自夸自恋厚颜程度，孤芳不自赏嘛 XD

我得承认，看到现在的快餐、包装和物质的爱情模式，很无语也很难过。也有一些是因为时间（结婚年龄的观念）、压力、孤单、和亲人的期望，让自己跌入万丈深渊。跌入容易，爬出来难。身体创伤不及心灵的创伤。人生几十年，值吗?

若是遇到对的人，是三生修来共枕眠，与子皆老。

若遇人不淑，或许，自己会让自己更幸福。


女孩们，你们找对了人吗？

男孩们，你们也找对了人吗？


若认对人，如何艰辛都不要放弃，雨天后便是彩虹。

若不能真心对待，宁愿放手，也不要背叛。


若还有一丝犹豫，

若只是因为某种因素，

若是抱有一丝希望，

若感情已苟延残喘，

若无法交心，

而选择他/她，

你必须为你的决定负责。

担不担当得起后果，只有你最清楚。

人生有限，何必为难自己？

能交心的人不多，

不过，那人会在灯火阑珊处。

时间会证明一切。

别安慰自己他会变好。

不对的人，再如何安慰自己未来会好起来，

是对自己最残忍的谎言。

人生不长，别把自己葬送进去。

让自己和对方幸福吧。

千万人赴宴

千万人退却

独他极力上前

争得你一席并肩

这人，你找到了吗？

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亲爱的，

感恩的是你放开我的手

让彼此追求属于我们各自的幸福

遗憾的是你错失我的未来

你却怨我如你所愿放手

由始至终

你对我们没信心

因你从未想过

让我们一起并肩面对

那属于我们的未来

我，不怪你

千万人赴宴

千万人退却

你乃其一

感恩

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你若不负我，我绝不负你

灯火阑珊处的，等我

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Di，谢谢您对我的幸福的用心良苦和对我的祝福。
我，好想您，好想好想。
您阅历过形形色色的人，还能保持赤子之心，很难得。
愿我能打破你们的结局，比之有过之而更精彩，圆满，幸福。



爱你们哦，
S.L α

Till we meet again - and we did meet :) 又见面了

Ola.

It's my first post of the year. Just to show up and prove that I am still alive. Miss me? ;)

Been very busy with life, busy with getting to understand the people around, to be specific. And also getting to understand oneself.

This year life lesson:
1) Life continues, with or without you

2) When you are still breathing, count your blessing

3) Appreciate people who are still with you, as time does not wait

4) Cherish those who had held your hands tight

5) Give blessing to those who had let go of you

6) Forgive and thank those who hurt you


Just recently bumped into an old acquaintance that I have not seen for a decade. Seems like time had changed lots of things, even people.

Had noticed that my old friend's temperament and features had changed, but somewhat there are people you are still able to recognize them at the first glance.

Did not manage to get an opportunity to greet each other, but grateful to see that my old friend is doing good.

Few years back was thinking of what will happen if the next meeting really happens, somehow things just did not happen the way that you wish them to be. Okay, I need to admit that I watched too much of the action series. XD

Grateful that I had made the right decision, for others to have the life that they wanted, and for myself to fulfill mine.

Glad that you look doing good, my friend :)


Sharing my recent favourite song, which in my opinion describe a lot about life

Cheers
S.L α 

Lessons of Time

Greetings.

Been a quarter since my last post.

Was getting my car fixed during the weekend, and the workshop owner was kind enough to lend out the office for me to work. Yep, I have to rush for something for my dear boss to be submitted next week. So now I have ended up with my blog post here due to the visit of my muses…….

I have been busy with the new environment and was being “invited” to the stage for an impromptu performance during the corporate dinner. I was also being hyped up by local dramas that drove the blood boiled. And, it was for the very first time that I have ever been so proud of my originality. Long live justice, long live peace, long live united spirits and long live to all the warriors who had fought with courage and wisdom. May the spirit of unity continue to run through the blood of the future generations.

The Lessons of Time below is an expression of my gratitude to those who are still standing by me in life, to those who had provided unwavering support, to those who had provided challenges, to those who had been following my posts for years, to those that had once passed by and to those who will be showing up in the future. A very big THANK YOU to all of you. All of you are imprinted in my mind and soul……*wink*

Lots of things had happened throughout the years, lots of gathers and separations, lots of gains and lost, and also lots of laughter and tears. Life was like a roller coaster, dramatic, colourful with different flavour of spices.

Whether we have known each other, yet to know or forever not knowing, THANK YOU for being with me.

I had started my blog fb few years back, but I had lost the way signing in *cough*. I prefer physical face to face interaction than fb and I am more of a whatsapp-ian than a fb-ian, forgive me on that. So, I had opened another fb account, EmbracingLife Sla. Feel free to add or pm me.

Lessons of Time

As time goes by

There are memories that fade with it

And there are those that get more rooted

Like a bottle of dated wine

The longer, the better the taste

As time goes by

All the flaws that were once distaste of

There will be realisation that

For all the imperfections

Are the essence of the perfection of life

As time goes by

There are little things that does not matter before

Became some of the important flashback moments

There are things that were once grand

All turned into dust

As time goes by

The preference of quantity

Started to shift to quality

It applies

Whether to the people or things in life

As time goes by

The unknown once afraid of

Became that is longing for

There will be realization that

The unknown grows larger everyday

As time goes by

Lots of things that were once

Worth complaining of

Became those that

Worth to be grateful of

As time goes by

The birthdays that were once anticipations of

Hope and longing for the future

Became reminders

Of the dateline on Earth

As time goes by

The breathing of each moment

Is a blessing

And all that is upon you

Is a gift

As time goes by

When you will be the only one left alone

Have the courage to love

To bless and

To live life

As time goes by

When it is the last breath

Give thanks to all the people and things in your life

And leave with satisfaction that

You have live to your fullest

                                                                                                                                ---------Y.F.Mok

The watch that had been accompanying me throughout the years and the coming 16^th year, that had witnessed the struggle, the battle, the separation; also the spark, the growth, the reunion. It has been infused and become part of my body. XD

Time flies, life goes, but both never end.

Thank you for all the years. May there will be more years to come.

With gratitude,

S.L.α

Dances of the Spark火花之舞

The song reminds me the sparks and all the moments throughout the years. Under the moonlight, a little dwarf started to dance along with the song on my shoulder, singing about the stories that carried by the wind and faded in time…….

Dances of the Spark

The usual full moon night

Became unusual when the surface of the quiet lake rippled

Just like

the fireworks of the 4^th of July

the shooting stars across the horizon

That full moon night

Losing the sense of direction

Fear arose

Yet

Calmed and in peace somehow

Because you were by my side

Didn’t know that it would be a decade long trap

trapped till it was eye blinding

trapped till the lost of sanity

trapped till losing sight of what love really is

Wishes were being whispered that

To be able to always support and fulfill the very promise made

To be able to understand the underlying of each sentence you meant

To be able to run towards you when you needed me the most

To be able to always be there for each other

Optimistic thoughts arose that

Obstacles could be overcome

Misunderstandings could be solved

Understandings could be achieved

Time would settle all the issues

Love was strong enough to overcome time, space and barriers

And, we always had each other

I guess, we were still kids

Getting bored quickly

Giving up easily

Drowning in superficiality

Somehow, somewhere in time

Left only with the naïve kid

Being challenged to face the obstacles and the lost of love ones

The kid

Who would still laugh when crying

Who would still thought that the moon followed her whenever she goes

Who would still believe there would always be rainbow after each rain

Who would still believe that you would be always there

Who would always be praying for miracles each and every time with full faith,

even though the miracles didn’t happen

Who died, one fine day when her prayers stopped

Rest in peace,

The spark that lasted for a glimpse of eye

Rest in peace,

The trap that lasted for a decade long

Rest in peace,

Sincere emotions being interpreted as fool’s acts

Rest in peace,

The kid who was born from heart
                                                                                                                          ------Y.F.Mok

Dear Lord,

Gratitude for the thrilling and fruitful journey full of tears and laughter

Forgive the kid for having faith in what she thought worth having faith in

Bless the kid to rest in peace

and for a rebirth full of love, happiness, courage, wisdom, wholesome and not losing hope

in something call faith

*****end of dance, end of story *****

for now

Jordin Sparks – Tattoo 

May lovers stand by each other’s side as always

May bachelors and bachelorettes find the love of life

Happy Qi Xi.

Cheers to the little kids in all of the hearts,

SLAlpha

Eggonometry 鸡蛋学

Lap Chun in Lunar Calendar, or Spring/Vernal Equinox, literally means the start of spring. So this year spring starts on the 4/2/18. Though it is all year round summer here, not much excitement of the change of seasons or seasonal activities we have here, yet our culture adds some hype in it. There are few practices/believes in our culture that some may practice during this day:

1) Cleaning the house for the flow of positive energy

2) Switching on all the lights in the house, a symbolism for a brighter future

3) Decorating the house themed with red decorations as an act for prosperity

4) Banking in money to the bank account for the belief of boosting the luck of wealth

5) Standing the eggs (yes, literally and physically “standing” the eggs)

I don’t usually practice item 4 and 5 for all these years but I had broken the tradition this year due to all the hypes around. The messages had been flying all over the place. A friend of mine was asking me whether I have tried standing the eggs. Excuse me? Erm, didn’t our parents advise us not to play with our food? Besides, I wonder what is so fun playing with the eggs. We used to have these scenes of a whole bunch of kids (the students) and few adults (the teachers) squatting at the corridor under the sun trying to balance the eggs to make them stand. I would be sitting on the side-lines at my desk enjoying the eggs balancing show. Hah, riddikulus!

After x moons passes and *cough* now it was my turn to have fun with the eggs…..Riddikulus seems to work. And, yes. I gave it a shot.

Now, you would have seen that a human form like figure squatting at the car porch with an egg trying to balance it on different areas of the floor. Out of my expectation, it stood after 20 minutes of trying. You would now see the human like figure "posing" on the floor trying to get the best angles for capturing the glorious moment. Selfies with egg, which are Eggfies. 

Overwhelm with self-satisfaction and pride, I tried to challenge myself balancing another few eggs.

 

Now, another scene of a human form like figure squatting with several eggs on the floor trying to balance them with one egg at each hand. The eggs will be merrily rolling all over the place and the human like figure will be frantically chasing after the rolling eggs under a ray of hot sun……karma of having fun watching over other people’s “egging” game.

One of them stood, finally, after 30 minutes of being a Mad Egg Chaser. Yes, another round of eggfies. When God opens a window, He closes one door. A breeze of wind caused the standing egg to fall flat on the floor. Well, at least 2 attempts were successful. *please excuse me for my high EQ spirit*

While I was merrily sharing *cough, should be bragging* my fruitful attempts with people around, one of them actually suggested me to glued the eggs with double side tape……Anyway, playing a game with and without cheatcode, the difference is the level of self-satisfaction and achievement, no?

Any of you guys have tried out the “eggonometry”? Give it a try, bet you, it will be very fun. Yes, very, very, FUN. And don’t play with cheatcode kay.

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Thought of putting my post title as “playing with eggs”, but I believe that this will bring about some pretty interesting misunderstanding *raising both eyebrows*.  But still, my persistent will of showing my effort put in “standing” the eggs *sweat* for an hour plus lights up the word “eggonometry”. Yes, not ergonometric, it is EGGonometry, as a way to brag all the sweat, time and effort put in just to make some oval like item called an egg stand…..

Have fun,
SL Alpha

A Farewell Note to 2017 永别2017

It is nearly going to be a year since my last post. Apologies for the delay as 2017 had been a very eventful and emotional year for me. Right, do spare me with some excuses. Anyhow, each and every year has been eventful, if you slow your pace down and look around (*perhaps I might have slowed my pace and looking around a bit too much with too many events…..*squatting and drawing circles at the corner of the wall…..)

At the beginning of the year, I had been through several farewells of pretty closed cohorts which I have been with them for several years. Very sweet and nice people. I had a few farewell luncheons with them to spare all of my tears and sorrows (*please excuse me of my exaggerating expression, humans are made of 60% of water anyway). Aside from the sadness, sincerely wish them all the best in their future endeavours.

Secondly, we had shifted to a new neighbourhood. So basically new environment, new neighbours, new routes and new ‘culture’. The most exciting was, I handled the shifting from Aay to Zee, you name it and you will get it from the list, literally and physically. It was challenging and exhausting, but anyway a new exciting experience. My biggest challenge among all other challenges of the new neighbourhood was the new routes. Yes, I mean new ROUTES. 

You see, there seem to be some cells in absence for the road recognition function…..And the thrilling part was, I couldn’t even seem to find my way home. Yes, I was literally “squealing” in the car, when my waze app or google app or whatsoever app in my hp failed me by temporarily being out of space and refused to function. Laughable but who would have known that I managed to direct my team members home at night back from a field trip project in my undergrad studies. And the main point was, without the help of waze/google map. *grin* Yeah I need to admit that, there were no waze nor google map app at that point in time, else I won’t be elected to be the human compass/GPS for such an important task. God gracious that we didn’t end up in Timb**tu. *gloriously grinning*

Some point in time in 2017, we had lost another dearest member. A loving, wise, kind, strong, loyal and forgiving kin. I will keep it posted in Another Farewell. I think, what I will recall during my last breath will be the people dear to me, rather than the materials and accomplishments for the whole life. Looking back at the people that I had lost, I keep on pondering when I will be left behind and when I will be the next. There will always be birth and death, but the point in life is, life can’t wait, cherish, appreciate and pursue while you are still able to. It is a journey to be travelled with full faith, courage and love.

Forth, I had recently switched industry from one that I had been in for years. Yes, I had another few rounds of farewells and luncheons (*dancing in circles merrily* luncheon is one of the favourite activities for a foodie, set aside the agenda for farewell), some even I didn’t manage to meet up due to the time constraint. I left with quite a heavy heart as it was the industry I have grown up with and sincere people that I had been working with for years. They were like friends and family. Will definitely be missing them very much. Wish me luck in my new venture.

New year, new hope
SL ALpha