There are basically 5 things that humans are less likely to
share:
1) MONEY
Money is not everything, but everything is about money. We will be generous to our family and friends, outsiders? Let us think twice. However, no matter how money can influence any of us, to put things down to earth, it is just the basic of life. If you can spare some of your money to the needy, you will get a sincere “thank you” or a grateful smile. Even if you get nothing in return, you will still be rewarded by happy feeling created by dopamine. Happiness is a feeling that money can’t buy as it is been rewarded by one’s sincere act and thought.
Money is not everything, but everything is about money. We will be generous to our family and friends, outsiders? Let us think twice. However, no matter how money can influence any of us, to put things down to earth, it is just the basic of life. If you can spare some of your money to the needy, you will get a sincere “thank you” or a grateful smile. Even if you get nothing in return, you will still be rewarded by happy feeling created by dopamine. Happiness is a feeling that money can’t buy as it is been rewarded by one’s sincere act and thought.
2) SPOUSE
Our society is a monogamy society; the vow of marriage makes
a couple and their children lawful. Adultery? Unlawful and unethical. We won’t
be able to accept nor tolerate any betrayal from our partner or an existence of a child out of
wedlock. Think twice before trapping yourself in the adverse consequences of
adultery. Headache, waste of time and money, broken family and lose of faith are the free gifts that comes as a package with a pesky lawsuit.
3) TIME
Time is money. We are always busy with our daily activities.
It is a great deal for us to spare our time out for loved ones. Especially in
the city, everything moves fast. Pedestrians are walking fast on the road, cars
are speeding on the road unwilling to spare their time stopping for those who
barely have the chance to cross the road, the bus driver was so desperate to
send his passengers to their destination that they (who packed like sardins in
a can) can hardly stand on their feet when the driver accelerates or abruptly
stops the vehicle. Time is precious, but when it is spared for good purpose, it
has its value.
4) LOVE
Most people want to be loved and I always heard of “I want
to be loved” instead of “I want to love…” As receiving is more easier than giving. The act of give involves letting go of something of your possession (whether it is physical or psychological), whereby generosity and courage are needed to let go something that is dear to you. Love is sacrifice, remember? Dare to contribute, and be grateful to receive. However, it is critical to know the difference and the thin line between love, melodramatic and amorous adventure, as it makes vast different to your life if you have misconception or misuse of these three, if you know what I mean.
5) LIFE
Life hereby refers to lifetime. Dealing with people is difficult, but you may escape with your brilliant social techniques. However, sharing lifetime is totally a different deal. We all are sharing life with people, the closest proximity ---- our family. Sometimes, we will have quarrels and misunderstanding between family members. These are inevitable, however, because of the blood-tie, we are able to tolerate and forgive easily. But when it comes to your beloved, grudges and contradictions of opinions are hard to be forgiven. Perhaps we do not want to feel that our partner is different from us, as we will feel a bonding distance. But come to think of it, which 2 individuals are the same? Nevertheless, difference brings togetherness. Though we all don't want to admit but undeniable, marriage is the proof.
The sharing of Time, Love and Life was evidenced by a pair of old couple, who were senior citizens in their seventies (or eighties), walking slowly with their hands holding, sharing their time and their steps together.
Life hereby refers to lifetime. Dealing with people is difficult, but you may escape with your brilliant social techniques. However, sharing lifetime is totally a different deal. We all are sharing life with people, the closest proximity ---- our family. Sometimes, we will have quarrels and misunderstanding between family members. These are inevitable, however, because of the blood-tie, we are able to tolerate and forgive easily. But when it comes to your beloved, grudges and contradictions of opinions are hard to be forgiven. Perhaps we do not want to feel that our partner is different from us, as we will feel a bonding distance. But come to think of it, which 2 individuals are the same? Nevertheless, difference brings togetherness. Though we all don't want to admit but undeniable, marriage is the proof.
The sharing of Time, Love and Life was evidenced by a pair of old couple, who were senior citizens in their seventies (or eighties), walking slowly with their hands holding, sharing their time and their steps together.
The mall was fully packed with shoppers today, and it was
especially crowded in restaurants and cinemas.I was sitting on a bench for a rest, watching the shoppers
passed by. Without realizing where I was staring at, my eyes laid their focus
on a pair of old couples holding their hands, walking slowly enjoying their
window shopping. They were so eye catching in the crowd, it was not of their
age, but of the way they walked together. I had seen lots of couples (hereby
refer to couples age 50 and above) came for shopping, but none of them held
their hands together. This was the first time in my lifetime that I had seen old couple in
their seventies or eighties holding hands walking in public.
Personally, the old couple was phenomenal. Three reasons for
that:
1) Though I am in a modern and open minded society, the norm of old couples in my society: walk separately
(perhaps this maybe due to wide personal distance), sharing of steps are
considered to be rare, not even to mention holding hands (this is only widely
seen among youngsters and young couples, not to mention about PDA)
2) Mortality of either one couple
3) The break of fidelity between partners
Referring to my post of Love--- The French Cuisine, it is easy to start a relationship and difficult to maintain a long lasting one however. For those who had involved in a marriage of more than 30 years would understand what I meant here. Eventhough marriage is a lifetime commitment, it would be miserable to treat a relationship as a commitment and "endure" it instead of experiencing and enjoying it. Dealing with loved ones are easier to be said than done, as their feelings are more delicate than you could ever imagined. Tolerance is only effective in the short term, nevertheless, understanding and acceptance can make a relationship long lasting in the long term. The old couple have shared more than half of century of time together, it is difficult for me as an outsider to imagine how much of understanding, faith, tolerance, support and selfless love were
inputted into their lifetime together. They were the real life example of sharing of time, love
and life. And they too, has reflected that whenever and wherever there is love, everyday is Valentine's Day.
Cheers to love. Happy Valentine's Day.
Stuck Like Glue - Sugarland
Cheers,
S.L.Alpha
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